Would you believe me if I told you that you may have an addiction to praise?
Possibly even an addiction to compliments as well?
I mean who wouldn’t? In moments I sure do 🙂
Doesn’t it feel so great when someone acknowledges us,
Says something kind,
and we feel seen?
We feel heard.
We feel liked.
And we feel like we belong.
And we be VIBING!
Well, what if our preference and addiction to compliments, and praise, actually hindered our growth?
Hindered our ability to show up as a True Soul led Leader…
Hindered our ability to own and speak our Soul truth?
You might be thinking “ok doc, you are really crazy now! I am going to keep my compliments and praise to myself!”
Here’s the other side of the coin.
When you become addicted to praise & compliments,
You, AT THE VERY SAME TIME…..will also want to avoid criticism and insults.
You will associate one with pain and one with pleasure.
And when we try to avoid pain…
1. It will continue to persist and show up in various ways
2. We will change our behaviour at all costs to avoid the experience…consciously or subconsciously
So essentially…if you are SEEKING compliments & praise, and trying to AVOID insults and criticism, this may affect your ability to make decisions and take actions as a Soul led leader.
Does that make sense?
You might hold back in what you say because you will be scared of what people might think.
You might hold back in saying how you truly feel because you might be scared of what people might say?
You might suppress the voice inside, and filter what comes out so much that it is no longer recognizable to your own Soul….all just to avoid criticism and insults.
Yet, what if there was a benefit to criticism?
What if there was a hidden gift in an insult?
Are you open to the possibility that you are the Source of all of your experiences?
If you begin to open up to the possibility that life is ALSO a mere reflection of what is going on INSIDE of you…..
And you begin to see that your so-called external reality is literally like a mirror being held up to show you everything you think and believe and know to be true about yourself and the world as you know it….
you may see insults differently.
you may even appreciate criticism.
Here’s how I view an insult.
Let’s say someone says to me: “your blogs are shit”.
Well, there are 2 pieces here….
1. This is a projection of the other person’s beliefs about themself….and they are just throwing that up on me. There is something inside of THEM that is being reflected back for them to see AND…
2. This could also reflect some guilt and shame that I might be consciously or unconsciously thinking about my work, and my blogs….especially if I feel an emotional sting from the experience.
Because if I didn’t truly believe that, I wouldn’t have an emotional reaction INSIDE of ME to the criticism or insult.
Got it?
So what if the next time someone said something to you that you didn’t prefer…
Could you…
1. Take full responsibility for how it makes you feel?
2. Feel what you feel and shift any misperception and belief that comes up that is not in alignment with what you are creating?
3. Not let the fear of being criticised or insulted impact your ability to take aligned action from Soul, so you can show up as the Leader you came here to be?
What would that shift for you if you went on a compliments & praise diet?
And you began to actively search for the hidden benefits of criticism and insults.
Try it for a week and let me know how it goes.
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You got this,
You always did,
Dr. S
