Every once in a while I have someone request to coach with me,
they are excited,
they are inspired,
they just KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt,
that the journey I will take them through,
will literally change their life in the direction they prefer,
where they feel more free,
more peace of mind,
more open to express themselves fully
with themselves
and with others
and with their highest truth
AND….a roadblock comes up,
they fear that if they change so much,
and become unrecognizable to the outside world,
more of who they TRULY are,
that they will also simultaneously lose someone close, someone significant in their lives
This belief can be conscious, or unconscious.
Sometimes they fear that they may lose,
their partner,
their closest friend group,
or maybe even family members
or maybe just the cat down the road
and THIS can feel scary AF
and really hault someone from taking the actions steps they know they need and want to take
in order to be and get what they truly desire in life…
Well here’s the thing,
and let me be frank,
all of the protective mechanisms, defenses, masks that you have acquired since childhood to feel safe,
That you have put up like the Great Wall of China, in order to keep you safe
these pieces of armour don’t actually allow people to REALLY know you,
to feel you,
to see you,
to love you for you,
and to experience the REAL magnificence of YOU,
and in truth, the relationship actually becomes a facade,
fake,
as I like to call “doing in order to get”
A show, or even a performance one might say.
For example…you may think, act or behave in certain ways in order to be in a relationship with someone….
You may have thought….
I have to wear (insert belief) in order to fit in
I have to like (some political party, sports team, or religious institution) in order to be accepted,
I have to behave proper, professional and boring to appear legit,
And the list goes on and on and on.
SNOOZE!!!!
How boring.
What if you didn’t have to BE or DO anything but listen to what’s inside,
And BE the real you,
without the old, outdated defense mechanisms,
the masks,
the personas,
the walls,
and that would magically have people magnetized to you,
WANTING to be around you,
WANTING to be your friend,
WANTING to play and dance in the flow of life with you.
completely and totally magnetized to your Soul,
Your light,
because you know when Soul sees Soul,
Light sees & acknowledges Light,
you don’t gotta be anything BUT yourself. So thinking that if you take an action towards what you truly desire,
KNOWING that it WILL change you,
And it may change your relationship with someone important to you,
AND…this could be a good thing,
Because what if…
what if the opposite were true…
What if you WOULDN’T actually lose this person?
what if when you changed,
They changed as well?
What if when you gave yourself full permission to be you,
it allowed them to give themselves permission to fully be them.
and as you stepped into your power
your confidence,
your true nature and being,
it also gave them the feeling of safety that they could do the same
that they could be free
that they could be themselves
that they could express what they truly desire
and still be loved,
all by you setting the example,
By YOU leading the way.
Crazy thought, but….
What if to change the world,
you actually had to start with changing yourself,
having the courage to change your way of being,
and it literally inspired those around you to do the same,
all by starting with your most important person,
Knowing this could be true, would you take that next step and do it for them?
